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  • SOS for Parents and Caregivers

    Your child’s school uses SOS Signs of Suicide to teach suicide prevention to students. Learn more about the program and resources available here.

What to Know

SOS is an evidence-based youth suicide prevention program that teaches middle and high school students how to identify warning signs of suicide and depression.

Trusted by thousands of schools across the country, SOS can be delivered in a single class period and encourages students to ACT® (Acknowledge, Care, Tell) if they are worried about themselves or a friend.

Student Lessons Include:

Videos and Discussion: Students watch age-appropriate videos and participate in guided classroom conversations that teach warning signs for suicide and the importance of reaching out for help. 

Screening Activity: A brief, self-scored depression questionnaire encourages students to reflect on their own emotional health and consider resources available for help. Once students answer the questions, they read help-seeking advice based on their answers. 

Exit Slip: This confidential referral slip gives students a pathway to ask to speak to an adult about concerns for themselves or a friend. Schools are encouraged to follow their procedures to ensure follow-up for any students seeking support. 

Suicide can be a difficult topic. For support, please call or text the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 988 >

Educational Resources for Families

Most people who consider suicide show signs of distress. But with intervention and the right support, young people can grow up to lead healthy, fulfilling lives. In the sections below, access our handouts for families, watch the video examples on how to ACT if you’re concerned about your child, and read more about how to reduce risk, spot the signs of suicide, and how to talk to your child. Help is always available.  

How Families Can ACT

This video and description provides an example of a parent using the ACT steps to express concerns and provide support. 

Acknowledge: The mother stated the changes she noticed that caused concern including loss of interest in hobbies, feeling tired all the time, avoiding friends, and change in appearance. 

Care: She demonstrated how much she loved and cared for her daughter by initiating this difficult conversation. By asking about suicide, she showed that she took her daughter’s pain seriously and wanted to know the truth. 

Tell: She empowered her daughter to reach out for support. She offered other adults and professional resources her daughter could talk to and together they made a plan to reach out.

Elli's Story

Watch this real-life story of how Elli’s parents describe their family’s journey from suicide risk to hope and recovery.

Acknowledge: Elli’s parents noticed signs of risk including extreme anger, withdrawing from family, and isolating in her room. 

Care: They learned that the best way to support Elli was to resist problem-solving, and to listen with empathy. In time, Elli accepted her parents’ love. She says they never gave up on her.  

Tell: When Mikayla told her mom that Elli was talking about suicide, her mom immediately contacted Elli’s parents. Then her parents took action, and began the journey of seeking help as a family. 

  • Spot the Signs

    Sometimes a teen’s words or behaviors give clues that they are thinking about suicide. Teens may also show signs to friends or teachers that you aren’t seeing at home. Take any concerns seriously. You may notice: 

    • Major changes in appearance, eating, or sleep 
    • Extreme withdrawal from friends and family 
    • Increased anger, agitation, or risky behavior (including alcohol or drug use) 
    • Sounding hopeless, trapped, or overwhelmed 
    • Talk of death or wanting to kill themselves 
  • Talk to Your Child

    If you have concerns for your child, the first step is to start a conversation, and then listen without judgement. Often when teens are struggling, they feel disconnected from the people who love them or fear that they might get in trouble. You can say, “I’ve noticed some big changes in you. How are you?” You can show your support by saying, “It’s okay to feel this way. I’m here for you.”

    If they give any indication that they are thinking about suicide, don’t hesitate to ask directly. Asking about suicide will not put the idea in their head. Instead, it will show them that you really see their pain and are not afraid to hear the truth. “When things get this tough, have you ever thought about ending your life?” No matter how your child answers, show your support and keep the conversation going.

  • Reduce Risk

    Mental health: Depression and other mental health concerns can impact anyone, including children and teens. While most teens who experience depression will never consider suicide, when depression goes untreated, some teens may feel so hopeless they consider suicide. Unfortunately, many teens and adults suffer for years without getting treatment. Seek support for your child as soon as you become concerned. 

    Substance use: Many teens turn to alcohol and/or drug use to try to cope with negative emotions. Talk to your child about the dangers of using alcohol or drugs to cope with negative emotions. Seek support for your child if you see signs of substance use. 

    Self-injury: Non-suicidal self-injury is when someone hurts themselves on purpose without the intention of dying. Though it is different from a suicide attempt, it is a serious concern and can increase someone’s risk for suicide. Seek professional help for self-injury immediately. 

    Access to guns: Suicidal crises are often temporary but access to a gun makes it easier to follow through in an instant. If you have a gun in your home, ensure it is safely locked and unloaded- and that your child does not know the code. Lock and store ammunition separately. If there is concern that a member of the household could be at risk of suicide, storing the gun outside the home – with a friend or a family member who is licensed to have a firearm – will greatly decrease the chances of a family member using the weapon in a moment of despair. 

    Populations at elevated risk: Though no one is immune from feeling depressed or suicidal, certain communities face increased risk including suicide loss survivors, people experiencing homelessness, individuals with disabilities, and LGBTQ+ youth who face rejection. Provide increased support for teens who identify in any of these groups.  

“We have seen the SOS program help students because it empowers students to say something when they are concerned about a friend.

This has happened multiple times. The program saves lives."

High School Principal
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The Evidence Behind SOS

Since the program’s inception, researchers have assessed the effectiveness of SOS Signs of Suicide by conducting several randomized controlled trials – an evaluation known as the “gold standard” of research studies.

SOS reduced suicide attempts by 64% and has demonstrated an improvement in students’ knowledge and adaptive attitudes about suicide risk and depression.

Have Questions?

Each district has their own policies, guidelines, and local resources, so please contact your school directly with any questions about how SOS will be facilitated in your community.